Deep Conversation Topics

by Loraine Walters
Created: 12.12.2019
Updated: 04.03.2020
Deep Conversation Topics

List of 410 Deep Conversation Topics

  1. Are emotions necessary for human survival? Why or why not?
  2. Are humans better at creation or destruction?
  3. Are some lives more valuable than others?
  4. Can people with vastly different cultural backgrounds live together peacefully? How?
  5. Do animals experience emotions? If so, do they experience emotions in the same way humans do? If not, how do they experience the world and what dictates their behavior?
  6. Do people have a right to be happy or should they have to earn it?
  7. Do people have an obligation to help others or should people be responsible for helping themselves?
  8. How are emotions useful for humans and the human race?
  9. How do you think you will die?
  10. How does tribalism and creating in groups and out groups (e.g. race, religion, sport team fans, people with a hobby, etc.) help and hurt society?
  11. How have your strengths help you to succeed? How have your faults hindered you?
  12. How important are morals in a healthy society? What are the most important morals for citizens to have?
  13. How important is freedom of the press to a healthy society?
  14. How would you like to die? Comfortably in bed surrounded by family, doing something you love, or some other way?
  15. If pressing a button meant you received 5 million dollars but it also killed 5 people somewhere in the world, would you press it? What if it killed only 1 person or killed 20 people? What if the people were people you knew?
  16. If sacrificing your own life would save the lives of a specific number of strangers, how many strangers would need to be saved for you to sacrifice your own life? What if the people were friends? How about family?
  17. If you died today, how would you be remembered?
  18. If you died today, what regrets would you have about your life?
  19. If you had to sum up the whole human species in 3 words, what would those words be?
  20. If you were given an envelope with the the time and date of your death inside, would you open it?
  21. In the distant past, a person’s life was very similar to their grandparents’ and grandchildren’s lives. How has the rapid pace of technological advancement changed society?
  22. Is taking a life ever justified? If so, where is the line? When is a person’s life considered forfeit?
  23. Is tribalism and people separating themselves into “us” and “them” groups, a learned or genetic trait? Can it be overcome? If so, how?
  24. Is what we perceive reality or just a construct of our minds? Can our minds correctly interpret reality or is reality subjective?
  25. Should governments make laws to protect people from hurting themselves?
  26. Should the government be involved in making laws to regulate moral behavior? If so, to what extent?
  27. What are the best and worst parts of human nature?
  28. What are the highest and lowest points of your life?
  29. What are the most important factors in maintaining a well functioning society? What does it mean for a society to function well?
  30. What are the pros and cons of colonizing other planets? How could this help or hurt the human race?
  31. What are your biggest goals for your life? What progress have you made in attaining them?
  32. What aspects of humans have made us a successful species?
  33. What do you think about the singularity? The idea that eventually artificial intelligence will advance to the point where computers are more intelligent than humans.
  34. What does honor mean to you? How important is it to you? Does your culture value honor? What exemplifies honor in your culture?
  35. What does it mean to die well?
  36. What does the ideal life look like?
  37. What is a miracle that happens every day?
  38. What is a year of life worth? How about a day?
  39. What is holding you back from being the person you want to be?
  40. What is most likely to bring about the extinction of the human race? How can it be avoided?
  41. What is the best way to explore human nature: psychology, philosophy, or biology?
  42. What is the most beneficial emotion? How about the most destructive?
  43. What is the most uplifting thing happening in the world right now? What is the most tragic thing?
  44. What is the purpose of a human life?
  45. What is the purpose of art in society?
  46. What makes people believe absurd conspiracy theories?
  47. What would a perfect city be like?
  48. What would be different if the 9/11 terrorist attack never occurred?
  49. What would be the best possible scenario for how the world will develop in the next 25 years? What do we need to do to get there?
  50. What’s something terrifying that we’ve all come to accept as a fact of life?
  51. Where’s your life headed?
  52. Who are you really? Who is behind the mask that you show to the rest of the world?
  53. Who do you know who is living life to the fullest?
  54. Will humanity continue to advance technologically or will we fall back to how we lived for thousands of years or fall back further to how we lived for a hundred thousand years ago?
  55. Will humans as a species ever be able to work together as a whole to achieve a goal? What is holding humans back from working together on a global scale?
  56. With the invention of the internet and the advent of big data and crowd sourcing, it’s finally possible for citizens to govern themselves directly. Is it a good idea for the masses to directly govern themselves or is governance something better left to professional politicians?

Deep conversation topics for couples

  1. Do you believe in an afterlife?
  2. Do you believe that pure happiness exists? Have you ever felt it?
  3. Do you feel like you’re living your best life? If not, what could you be doing to change that? How could I help you?
  4. Do you live more in the moment, or planning for the future?
  5. Do you think there’s actually a difference between loving and being in love for someone? If so, what?
  6. Has there been something that’s happened that has forever changed how you think?
  7. Have you ever had a falling out with a friend? What happened?
  8. Have you ever had your heart broken?
  9. How do you think the world came into existence?
  10. How would you hate us to be described?
  11. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  12. If you could do anything for someone in your life right now, what would it be and who would it be for?
  13. If you could eliminate one thing from your life today, what would it be?
  14. If you could make one change to the world before you die, what would they be?
  15. In what way are you your own worst enemy?
  16. Were you close to your parents growing up?
  17. What are you most afraid of losing?
  18. What are your biggest goals in life?
  19. What do you love most about yourself?
  20. What do you think before getting into a relationship?
  21. What do you value most in a friendship?
  22. What does love mean to you?
  23. What is your biggest flaw?
  24. What is your greatest achievement?
  25. What kind of old person would you like to become?
  26. What legacy do you/would you want to leave for your kids? If no kids, younger members of your family?
  27. What makes you feel accomplished?
  28. What song do you want played at your funeral?
  29. What was the most important life lesson you learned as a child?
  30. What was the most life-changing event you’ve ever experienced?
  31. What were the 3 happiest days of your life?
  32. What’s one thing you feel our relationship is lacking?
  33. What’s your biggest regret?
  34. When do you think it is okay to tell a lie?
  35. Who is the black sheep in your family?
  36. Why do you think we’ve been put here on earth? Do you think life has a purpose?
  37. Would you rather be 100% confident in who you are, or be 100% confident that you’re with the right person?
  38. Would you rather be alone for the rest of your life or always be surrounded by annoying people?
  39. Would you rather be famous when you are alive and forgotten when you die or unknown when you are alive but famous after you die?
  40. Would you rather have a very successful partner or be moderately successful yourself?
  41. Would you rather have an epic, tragic romance or a satisfying, long-term relationship?

Deep conversation topics with girlfriend

  1. Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?
  2. As you get older, is there something you’re becoming afraid of?
  3. At what age do you feel like you become an adult?
  4. Background and Identity
  5. Describe something you want to achieve this year
  6. Discuss Beliefs and Values
  7. Do you believe everything happens for a reason, or do we just find reasons after things happen?
  8. Do you believe everything happens for a reason?
  9. Do you believe evil people are born evil?
  10. Do you believe in rebirth?
  11. Do you regret anything from your youth?
  12. Do you think morals are universal or relative to the beliefs, traditions, and practices of individuals or groups?
  13. Does spending time with other people energize or drain you?
  14. Generally speaking, what’s the best way a person can spend their time?
  15. Have you ever been afraid for your life?
  16. How important is it for you to invest money?
  17. If we could live in a virtual world, but we could never come back to this one, would you want to?
  18. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
  19. If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?
  20. If you found out your current life has been just a dream, would you choose to wake up? (You don’t know if your real life would be better or worse
  21. If you had to pick how you died, what would it be?
  22. If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first?
  23. Is it easier to love or be loved?
  24. Is life anything like you had pictured it would be growing up?
  25. Talk About Goals and Dreams
  26. What about the attractiveness/physical appearance?
  27. What are the essential qualities that should be there in a person?
  28. What bad habits do you want to break?
  29. What belief do you have that most people disagree with?
  30. What challenging experiences have made you stronger?
  31. What do you hope you grow out of?
  32. What do you like most about your family?
  33. What do you think happens after we die?
  34. What do you think is your best physical feature?
  35. What do you think most stops people from understanding themselves?
  36. What do you think the role of a woman in a relationship should be?
  37. What does it mean to live a good life?
  38. What first attracted you to me? How has that one attraction changed since then?
  39. What food most reminds you of your childhood?
  40. What has taken up too much of your life?
  41. What have you done to pursue your dreams lately?
  42. What impression do you try to give when you first meet someone?
  43. What is one behavior that you never tolerate?
  44. What is one thing you’d like to accomplish by this time next year?
  45. What is the hardest lesson you had to learn in life?
  46. What is your saddest memory?
  47. What movie made you cry the most?
  48. What should a healthy relationship provide for the people in it?
  49. What single word do you think really, truly describes who you are as a person?
  50. What stresses you out the most?
  51. What three things do you think of most each day?
  52. What was the best time of your life?
  53. What would you do if a close friend started saying mean things about you?
  54. What would you do tomorrow, if you lost your job and money and we had to start over?
  55. What would you do with your life if you were suddenly awarded a billion dollars?
  56. What would you say you’re most passionate about?
  57. What would you wish to accomplish in life, if you could only accomplish one major thing?
  58. What would your perfect life consist of?
  59. What’s the habit you’re proudest of breaking?
  60. What’s your guiltiest pleasure?
  61. What’s your happiest memory?
  62. When was the last time you really badly failed?
  63. Where would you like to retire?
  64. Who’s the closest person to you in your extended family?
  65. Who’s the person you admire most?
  66. Why do we take life for granted?
  67. Why do you think people fear losing things that they do not even have yet?
  68. Would you be willing to lie to a court for a close friend if it meant saving your friend from going to jail?
  69. Would you let me help you with your biggest problems?

Deep conversation topics with your boyfriend

  1. Am I your soulmate? Why?
  2. Are soulmates real?
  3. Are we “born” to meet our “other half”?
  4. Are you looking for commitment?
  5. Are you pro-choice or pro-life?
  6. Can a positive outlook make any situation better?
  7. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share . . . .”
  8. Did you think this relationship would be short or long when we started?
  9. Do you believe emotional ‘cheating’ is just as bad as real cheating?
  10. Do you believe in fate? destiny?
  11. Do you believe in heaven?
  12. Do you believe in soulmates?
  13. Do you believe in the phrase “opposites attract”?
  14. Do you believe in true love?
  15. Do you believe there is good in everyone?
  16. Do you believe there’s one person you’re ‘meant’ to be with?
  17. Do you ever rehearse a phone call beforehand?
  18. Do you forgive and forget or forgive and remember?
  19. Do you have any dreams from childhood that you can vividly recall?
  20. Do you prefer going out or staying in?
  21. Do you put more attention to the people around you or the things around you?
  22. Do you think a person’s outward appearance says anything about who they are as a person?
  23. Do you think a proposal should be a grand public display or a private intimate moment?
  24. Do you think children are more of a blessing or a burden?
  25. Do you think destiny is real?
  26. Do you think I’m the ‘right’ person for you? (If yes) What about me makes me the ‘right’ person?
  27. Do you think I’ve been vulnerable in our relationship?
  28. Do you think it’s okay to have a close female friend at work?
  29. Do you think it’s better to have the worst house in a nice neighborhood or the best house in a bad neighborhood?
  30. Do you think it’s more important to work or spend time with family?
  31. Do you think people can or should be friends with their exes?
  32. Do you think there’s such thing as the ‘right’ person for you?
  33. Do you think you’ve been vulnerable in our relationship?
  34. Do you think your significant other can be both your best friend and your lover?
  35. Do you want to have kids someday when you meet the right person?
  36. Does love frighten you?
  37. Have I been sensitive and open in our relationship?
  38. Have you been open with me as a partner?
  39. Have you ever done something you regretted?
  40. How are we compatible?
  41. How do you deal with failure?
  42. How do you feel about genetically modified food?
  43. How do you like to show your love?
  44. How do you picture your life when you’re 60?
  45. How do you think we both have changed since we first started dating?
  46. How have you changed the most since you were younger?
  47. How have your priorities changed over time?
  48. How important do you think it is to do well in school?
  49. How important do you think sex is in a marriage?
  50. How important is it for you to save money?
  51. How is our relationship special compared to others?
  52. How long did you think our relationship would last when we first started dating?
  53. How much do you value love?
  54. How much do you value me?
  55. How much do you value this relationship?
  56. How much have we changed since our first date?
  57. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about your life, me, or the future, what would you want to know?
  58. If a family member needed a kidney and you were the only match, would you give one up?
  59. If I had to move to another country, would you be willing to wait, or would we break up?
  60. If I said you could date other people, would you?
  61. If I wanted a puppy for my birthday, would you adopt a purebred from a breeder or a mix from a shelter?
  62. If I was giving birth to our child and complications arose that meant only one of us would make it, who would you save?
  63. If I went missing, my body never recovered, would you move on or devote your life to looking for me? If you did move on, how long would you wait?
  64. If one of us had to move far away, would you be able to handle a long distance relationship?
  65. If our relationship ended, what’s the one thing about it you’d miss the most?
  66. If something happened where I had to move very far away, would you attempt long-distance? Or go our separate ways?
  67. If we break up tomorrow, what would you miss the most?
  68. If we could go anywhere together right now, where would you want to go?
  69. If we had children, what features would you want them to get from you and which from me?
  70. If you became famous, would you enjoy the limelight or miss your privacy?
  71. If you could change anything about the past, what would it be?
  72. If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?
  73. If you could change one thing about our relationship what would it be?
  74. If you could fix one world problem, what would it be?
  75. If you could get a free roundtrip ticket with me to anywhere right now, where would it be?
  76. If you could go back in time to give advice to your younger self, what would you say?
  77. If you could have chosen your own name, what would you have picked?
  78. If you could invite 3 people to dinner, who would they be?
  79. If you could live anywhere, where would you live?
  80. If you could live in any era, which would it be and why?
  81. If you could live til you were 90 and either have the mind or body of a 30-yr-old, which would you choose and why?
  82. If you could wake up tomorrow and have gained one ability, what would it be and why?
  83. If you died tonight, is there anything you’d regret not having told someone?
  84. If you had $200 to spend on something special just for me, what would you buy?
  85. If you had kids, what would be your biggest hope and biggest fear for them?
  86. If you had one word to describe our love what would it be?
  87. If you had one word to describe our relationship what would it be?
  88. If you had three wishes, what would they be?
  89. If you only had a week left to live, what are some things you would do?
  90. If you were running for president, what are three key things you would include in your campaign?
  91. If you were told you have a terminal illness, how would you take the news?
  92. If you’re stressed out, what helps you wind down?
  93. If your home was on fire and you only had time to grab 3 things, what would they be?
  94. In what areas do you want to change the most?
  95. Is love something that scares you?
  96. Is there any book that changed your life?
  97. Is there anything in our relationship that you think we need to work on?
  98. Is there anything too serious to be joked about?
  99. Is there anything you wouldn’t want your family to know?
  100. Is there anything you’re ashamed of in the past?
  101. Is there anything you’re ashamed of?
  102. Is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  103. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing and why?
  104. Should children be allowed to have cell phones?
  105. Someone calls me something horrible. Do you let me fight my own battles, or jump in and defend me?
  106. We notice an old man living out of a shopping cart behind a grocery store. What is your first thought about him?
  107. What about love scares you?
  108. What about me made you fall in love?
  109. What about our relationship makes you really happy?
  110. What about us both is exactly the same since we first started dating?
  111. What about us do you think works well together? How do we balance each other out?
  112. What advice would you give to a person who is just graduating high school?
  113. What are some things in life that you had to learn the hard way?
  114. What are some things that offend you?
  115. What are the biggest differences between us?
  116. What are three key elements in every successful relationship?
  117. What are three things you are willing to splurge on for yourself?
  118. What are you most thankful for?
  119. What are you scared about with our relationship?
  120. What are your views on the political system?
  121. What characteristic of mine is your favorite?
  122. What could our relationship be better at?
  123. What could you best improve in this relationship?
  124. What did you think when you first met me?
  125. What do I mean to you?
  126. What do you contribute to the relationship the most?
  127. What do you dream about when it comes to our future?
  128. What do you look for most in a spouse?
  129. What do you most fear about getting older?
  130. What do you remember most about the night/day we first met?
  131. What do you think about most often?
  132. What do you think are three things we have in common?
  133. What do you think has been the hands-down funniest moment since we started dating?
  134. What do you think I’d say is your most attractive quality?
  135. What do you think is more admirable, a stay-at-home mom or a career driven mom?
  136. What do you think is the biggest flaw of the welfare system?
  137. What do you think is your biggest strength in this relationship?
  138. What do you think of open relationships?
  139. What do you think was your most vulnerable moment in our relationship?
  140. What do you want me to do more?
  141. What do you want to do with me that we have never tried together?
  142. What does this relationship mean to you?
  143. What famous real or fictional couple reminds you the most of us?
  144. What frightens you most when it comes to love?
  145. What happened in the last dream you remember?
  146. What has stayed the same in this relationship since the beginning?
  147. What have you always wanted to ask me?
  148. What inspires you?
  149. What invention do you think has done the most for the human race?
  150. What is a tradition you did as a child that you want to do with your kids someday?
  151. What is one area in your life where you feel like something is missing?
  152. What is one thing that can destroy a relationship and never be forgiven?
  153. What is one thing that you cannot start your day without?
  154. What is one thing that you feel would make any small business owner more successful?
  155. What is our funniest memory together?
  156. What is something you appreciate about me?
  157. What is the one rule you have for yourself that you will never break?
  158. What is your best characteristic?
  159. What is your biggest insecurity?
  160. What is your happiest memory?
  161. What is your life story?
  162. What is your most terrible memory?
  163. What is your most vivid memory of the first time we met?
  164. What is your position on premarital sex?
  165. What loving thing do I do that you like the most?
  166. What memory instantly makes you smile?
  167. What obstacles are currently trying to overcome?
  168. What part of this relationship makes you happiest?
  169. What physical aspect of me do you love most?
  170. What religious/spiritual views do you have and why?
  171. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  172. What secret haven’t you told me yet?
  173. What shared memory do you love more than all others?
  174. What single word would you choose to best describe our love?
  175. What single word would you choose to best describe our partnership?
  176. What song do you think best fits our relationship?
  177. What thing do I hate about myself that you love?
  178. What was your first impression of me?
  179. What were your childhood aspirations, and how have they changed?
  180. What were your first thoughts when we met?
  181. What would be your perfect date night?
  182. What would you alter about our partnership?
  183. What would you consider a perfect day?
  184. What would you want said about you after you die?
  185. What’s something that no one else knows about you?
  186. What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
  187. What’s a problem you’re dealing with right now?
  188. What’s one difference between us that you absolutely love?
  189. What’s one quality about me that I see as a flaw that you absolutely love?
  190. What’s one secret you’ve wanted to tell me, but haven’t?
  191. What’s one similarity between us that you absolutely love?
  192. What’s one thing about your life you would never change for someone else, including me?
  193. What’s one thing I do that makes you feel good, that you wish I did more?
  194. What’s one thing you hope happens in the future of our relationship?
  195. What’s one thing you think makes our relationship unique from everyone else’s?
  196. What’s one thing you want to do together that we’ve never done before?
  197. What’s one thing you’re scared to ask me, but really want to know the answer to?
  198. What’s something you could never compromise about?
  199. What’s something you enjoy doing that you never get tired of?
  200. What’s the best lesson you learned from your parents?
  201. What’s the biggest struggle that you’ve ever faced?
  202. What’s the most important value you would teach a young person?
  203. What’s the one thing that should be taught, but isn’t?
  204. What’s the thing you most want to achieve when you die?
  205. What’s your biggest fear for this relationship?
  206. What’s your biggest weakness in this relationship?
  207. What’s your favorite memory of us?
  208. What’s your favorite non-physical quality about me?
  209. What’s your favorite physical quality about me?
  210. What’s your favorite way to receive affection?
  211. What’s your favorite way to show affection?
  212. When did you first realize you wanted to be with me?
  213. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  214. When things break, do you prefer to fix them or replace them?
  215. When was the first time you said I love you?
  216. When was the first time you were in love?
  217. When was the last time you really pushed yourself to your physical limits?
  218. When was the last time you shed a tear?
  219. When were you most open with me during this partnership?
  220. When you die, do you want to be buried or cremated? Why?
  221. Where do you see yourself in five years?
  222. Where is your favorite place to be with me?
  223. Where is your favorite spot with me?
  224. Which difference do we both share that you can’t get enough of?
  225. Which one fits you better? “Live for the moment”, or “Save the best for last”?
  226. Which similarity do we both share that you can’t get enough of?
  227. Who are three people in your life that you would risk dying for?
  228. Who do you think is the most affectionate in our relationship?
  229. Who is more loving between us?
  230. Who is your hero? What qualities make them your choice?
  231. Why did you fall in love with me?
  232. Why do you think the divorce rate is so high nowadays?
  233. Would you consider yourself an externally motivated or internally motivated person?
  234. Would you consider yourself an optimist, pessimist, or realist?
  235. Would you consider yourself materialistic?
  236. Would you consider yourself proud to live in this country?
  237. Would you rather be crazy rich, or deeply in love?
  238. Would you rather have a life full of love or a life full of money?
  239. Would you rather I be good in the kitchen or good in the bedroom?
  240. Would you rather leave a big impact on the world or a big impact in your family?
  241. Would you sacrifice yourself for a stranger?
  242. Would you surprise me with an expensive gift, or would you consult me before spending the money on it?
  243. Would you want to have an open relationship?
  244. You suspect that your neighbors may be abusing their child, do you mind your own business or call the police?

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